Don't Say NO to Social Media

Don't Say NO to Social Media

Can You Find a Way to Say "YES"?

Your 10 year old child asks “can I have an Instagram account?” and for most parents, their first inclination is to say “no, not yet”. While as parents we need to be aware and vigilant about our kids’ digital footprints, we also need to understand that joining social networks today for tweens and teens is akin to hanging out at the mall or on the playground 30 years ago. It’s where the kids are and it’s where kids socialize, whether we like it or not.

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How Am I Supposed to Teach Social Media Etiquette in 2017?

How Am I Supposed to Teach Social Media Etiquette in 2017?

It is  VERY DIFFICULT to explain to young people why it's NOT okay for them to bully or lie online when the person who holds the highest office in the land does just that and doesn't seem to have to pay any consequences for his actions.  I've heard time and time again, "Why can the President tweet things like that and not get in trouble but I do?".

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I Can't Put My Phone Down and It's a Problem

I Can't Put My Phone Down and It's a Problem

I don’t know about you but I think I may need an intervention.

I often put down my phone with the express intention of working on/doing something that doesn’t involve me using my phone at all and then, usually without realizing I’m picking it up, the phone is in my hand and I’m scrolling through social media or playing a game on the device while I was supposed to be focusing on something else.

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Promposals Aren't Just About Getting a Date

Promposals Aren't Just About Getting a Date

It's Almost Promposal Season. Brace Yourselves.

If you aren't a teenager (or the parent of a teenager) then you probably haven't heard about promposals.  Now that spring is in the air, promposals are all over social media.  It's not enough today to just ask a date to prom, a prom invitation has to be inventive, attention-getting, and worthy of posting on social media.  Visa conducted a survey and found that on average, promposals cost $324 which is about a third of the total average cost of $919 spent on prom in 2015.

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The Top 7 Things College Admissions Professionals Revealed When Asked About Social Media

The Top 7 Things College Admissions Professionals Revealed When Asked About Social Media

The Inside Scoop on College Admissions

I had the enviable opportunity recently to meet with a group of admissions officers from 10 different colleges and universities to talk about the college admissions process in the digital age.

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Online Privacy Doesn't Exist

Online Privacy Doesn't Exist

Does online privacy exist?

The Debbie Wasserman Schultz DNC’s email scandal is just the latest in a constant string of public missteps involving emails, posts and texts sent or shared online, not originally intended for public consumption, that became public and led to scandal.  She, like most people who use email, likely assumed her email wouldn't be shared with the world.  She, of course was wrong and now she and the Democratic Party are now dealing with fallout from the reality that online privacy doesn't really exist .

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Cyber-Safety: To Spy or Not To Spy

Cyber-Safety: To Spy or Not To Spy

To Spy or Not to Spy?

I am the founder of a tech company (The Social U) that specializes in scanning and scoring social media accounts for students to ensure that what they post online doesn’t prevent them from getting an internship, a job, a scholarship or into college. We also educate young people on various issues concerning cyber-safety and online etiquette.

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What Does "Don't Post Anything Inappropriate" Really Mean?

What Does "Don't Post Anything Inappropriate" Really Mean?

Define "Inappropriate"

I’ve heard many parents tell their kids (myself included) “don’t post anything inappropriate online”.  We say this phrase and think we are being good/responsible parents – that we are doing our job when it comes to talking to our kids about being responsible on social media.

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Stop Checking the Parent Portal For Your Kid's School

Stop Checking the Parent Portal For Your Kid's School

It's Okay Not To Check The Parent Portal Every Week!

Okay, Parents, Hear Me Out

Before I founded The Social U, I was an educator.

I started teaching high school in the early 1990's before schools embraced the internet.  I was the first teacher in my school to share an email address (my personal email, not a school email address - we didn't have them back then) with parents so they could easily reach me during the school day.  I embraced technology and couldn't wait to share it with my students and their parents.

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How Much Media Time is Too Much?

How Much Media Time is Too Much?

Did You Hear The One About Teens Spending 9 Hours A Day With Media? Not So Fast…

I've read articles touting the “new landmark study” illuminating how much time tweens and teens spend with media. To be honest, the reporting and headlines really upset me – but not because I think there is something wrong with how tweens and teens today use media. Rather, the way the study is being presented focuses on shock value as opposed to what the data really tells us. Here are some of my favorite headlines from the news about the same study:

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The Dos and Don'ts of Free Expression Online

The Dos and Don'ts of Free Expression Online

My Social Media Rules for Tweens and Teens

I recently spoke to 5,000-plus middle and high school students from a single school district about their digital footprint and how it can affect their future goals. I was struck by the number of students that stayed after the presentations to talk to me about their perception of fairness related to their ability to freely express themselves online.

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Parenting Online and Offline

Parenting Online and Offline

Parenting is Hard Both Online and Offline

From the moment our children are born, we, as parents, worry.  At every stage, someone who has an older child tells us to “enjoy it now, it only gets worse”.  However, when we are looking at our toddler putting everything into her mouth and worried that she is going to choke on something the moment we turn our head in the other direction for a second, we can’t imagine how it can get worse.  I always felt that the first few years of childhood for parents is spent trying to keep their kids alive.

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